Online Dating Game
By: David Baker
Looking at how many on-line dating
websites there are on-line offering either free or paid
for memberships, you are bound to eventually discover
someone worth dating. Most on-line
dating services have features which
provide the tools for finding and contacting people
that match the description you are seeking.
One of the things you should consider while examining
potential mates based on personal ads is that not
everyone is honest.
How can you tell if someone is being truthful?
There's nothing wrong with a person
wanting to present himself or herself as desirable and
representing themselves that way. How a person
represents himself or herself says a lot about that
person. While you're reading through the on-line
personal ads and see someone that catches your eyes,
your next step is to contact the person and ask for a
photo if there is not already one included with the
personal ad. We all know that the first instance of
attraction usually results from physical appearance. If
the photo is not that appealing we generally have a
tendency to continue looking.
"A journey of a thousand miles must begin
with a single step." Lao-tzu, Tao-te Ching
Dating is just the first step of many in
finding yourself a lifelong mate; so don't be in a
rush, go ahead and take your time. Compile yourself a
'wish list' of what qualities you desire in
your potential mate. After you've decided on your
list of qualities, then you should keep them fresh on
your mind by either memorizing or keeping them with
you. These details are your blueprint which describe
your potential partner who you may end up
dating. For the best results your list
should be no more than one page; after-all no one is
perfect and you don't want to set your expectations
too high. As you know every living human being has
'skeletons in their closet' and it is up to you
to evaluate whether the positive qualities outshine the
undesirable ones.
Most people have issues from past relationships which
carry over to current ones. That is part of human
nature which is unavoidable. As a result, many people
who have experienced this are choosing not to date. In
many ways on-line dating may seem like
a game, but that does not justify being our being
selfish because of our hard feelings.
Dating has the capacity for positive
and negative, just like anything else.
Dating can be both very positive or a
negative experience. Part of what makes us is the
relationships we maintain and the lessons learned from
those relationships. We should be more considerate of
the lessons learned and carry them in our lifelong
commitments. The reality is that we are likely to foul
up any dating mould we select because
we are not perfect.
The most significant factor we should be considering is
whether or not we can follow up on what is positive and
when to say no. You should encourage yourself to be
dating because otherwise you may never meet that person
you could be spending the rest of your life with.
Relationships do not always end in marriage, and
because of this it doesn't mean we are now less
capable of giving someone else just as much honour,
love, patience, kindness, trust. If you choose to be
sincere, devoted, protecting, trusting, hopeful,
persevering, and never failing, I believe your
dating years will be incredible years.
Refusing to date tells us that we believe ourselves
incapable of having a relationship in that manner that
was intended for us. Dating can be a
positive experience in your life and help us navigate
the waters of maturity and even marriage.
Dating can be a source of recreational
enjoyment that is fun.
Your personal individuality is developed through
interactions with other people.
People need to discover the kinds of roles they find
fulfilling in a close relationship.
Dating involves learning about
closeness and serves as an opportunity to institute a
unique, meaningful relationship with a person of the
opposite sex.
Dating helps you find the right mate.
Dating can provide companionship
through interaction and shared activities.
Dating can help prepare you for
getting married.
Dating does not have to be scary,
weird, artificial or anything else but pleasurable. All
you need to do is try to make the
dating period fun. Group
dating is a good way to make sure that
you abide by the standards that you have set for
yourself. Plan outings with friends, church groups, or
whatever, just to have more fun.
If you never date anyone, how will you determine what
you want? Dating is your chance to
have a fairly deep relationship with someone before you
hand over your life to a lifelong marriage.
Here's some food for thought when initiating
contact with someone you want to know and date: "
A kind word will keep someone warm for years."
If you are looking for more information on
dating advice make sure you visit www.firstnationsdating.com
David Baker
First
american indian dating site for single American indian
women and men. The Purpose of this site is to
increase the population of American indian people
across North America.
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